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We're meeting for the first time

So you've posted your advert, you've gone through your replies, and you've found a couple to swing with for the first time. By now you've chatted on-line, got to know each other over the phone, they sound nice enough people and have the same likes and dislikes as you....She is bi-curious, he is straight, they are looking for a first time experience, and have been looking for the right people for sometime now. They live just an hour away, and are willing to meet you. You all admit that you're not supermodels, and laugh about your nervousness.....

I bet you have butterflys (I still do, five years on). Remember that although the vaste majority swingers are really nice, you will get the odd wierdo trying to meet you. With this in mind, think safety first and follow these tips :-

* Never give out your home number, if you want them to ring you, use a mobile number.
* Never give out your home address or your last name, you can never be to carefull.
* If you are meeting privately (not at a club or party ), tell a trusted friend where you are going, and arrange to call them sometime through your meeting, just so they know that you are safe, this also lets whoever you are meeting know that someone knows where you are.
* Always talk to them on the phone, especially if they are supposed to be a couple. Arrange a time to speak to both male and female, as very often you get men pretending to be a couple, who use excuses like, sorry my wife/girlfriend is at work, or out. This is more often that not, a timewaster.
* If you do arrange to meet someone, make sure you meet in a public place, this way if you decide you don't like the person/people, then you can make your excuses and leave with no comebacks.

Expectations may run high.... lets meet and then go onto somewhere private, you or they may be thinking. Trust your instincts with your potential new friends. Do you get an uneasy feeling?.... is someone trying to rush into something?.... does the reality not fit with what you heard on the phone or on-line. You don't have to have sex on the first date !

If you decide that you do like the person/people, are planning on using your home ,and you think you can trust them, then let them follow you to your house. Another alternative is a hotel, that you can split the costs of.

How do we get the ball rolling? You have met...talked, and have gotten over the nervousness of the initial meeting. You've been laughing, joking, and getting to know each other, talking and sharing secrets. Under the table your partner is rubbing the top of your thigh...the two of you know that this is they think the same thing?

Across the table they are playing footsie, and exchanging glances.....Now what? Someone has to make the first move or say something to get the ball rolling. Just talking about your fantasies may be what you need. Sometimes swinging couples party games are the way to go, like truth or dare, or using a normal pack of cards and coming up with your own game. Everyone writes suggestions on small pieces of paper fold them, put them in a hat, and whoever loses the game, picks one and acts out the suggestion. Always make your own partner feel important, kiss them passionatly to get things started. Even if your new friends are experienced they will be nervous too, and if they have experience, and you feel comfortable....let them guide you.

If your meeting does evolve into a party come prepared....shower and shave.....bring your own condoms and other necessities, oh, and make sure you are wearing horny underwear....ladies you don't want to meet another couple in your belly slappers! and that goes for the lads aswell.

Take your partners, and the other couple/singles needs and feelings into consideration, and remember to HAVE FUN!

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